Alpha Mail: Alphas and N,

TC rethinks his indifference to a woman's sexual history:

In the past I have never particularly cared about a woman’s N within a certain range of normal.  I Still don’t.  I don’t screw pornstars, but I also don’t meet any.  But within that context I simply don’t find a woman’s N count particularly bothersome at all, never have.  In spite of my 15 year marriage I still have a fairly high N count from before it and since, though keeping it up to date hasn’t been an issue for me since I was a kid.  And the way I think I might be an outlier in this area is that to my recollection, I can recall only 1 woman who didn’t say that sex with me was the very best she’s ever had. 

Now I know (have always known) you can’t believe what women say, particularly in that area.  And I typically don’t.  So although of course I take you at your word when you say that many men care deeply about a woman’s N count, even though I can’t really identify with it, I have to wonder if that concern isn’t some form of ego defense.   If you think that’s the case or not, that’s fine.  But in trying to reshape my view of the world to be more disciplined about game, I wonder if it is something I should be more concerned about now than I was in the past. 

I still entertain the idea of more children, and that will require commitment.  But I feel no moralists desire for a woman of past purity, and I’d make the call on a woman’s commitment worthiness on aspects other than N count.

I know enough about TC to know that he's not a Secret King. He's an Alpha with the conventional Alpha indifference to female promiscuity. I am similarly indifferent; whether a woman has 5 or 15 previous partners, that's just a rounding error from my perspective.

HOWEVER... what both Alphas and Sigmas tend to miss in their blithe sexual self-confidence is that what works when a man is single is not going to work so well in a marital relationship. The problem is that their single most reliable tool - NEXT - has been voluntarily removed from the toolbox. So, TC is wrong, both logically and empirically, to believe that a woman's N count is not the best proxy for her commitment-worthiness.

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