Staring in fascination at his own navel

Yesterday Delta Man posted about the good life that can be achieved by most men. There were, as you might expect, the usual remarks from the bitter no-hopers who see inevitable doom and disaster in a coin toss, but I thought that this response from Jay was an extremely informative classic with regards to the Gamma's instinctive response to the potential for self-improvement:

Not sure what you think of the following - I bought the same main course in a restaurant while on holiday on 2 different days . The woman I was with gave me a funny look and told me to grow up, I tried to laugh it off make a joke of it etc but says a lot about you, how you react to that sort of thing. Is buying the same thing like that a bad sign?

First of all, we have the conventional Gamma narcissism. What the fuck does this have to do with the post? Nothing. Nothing at all. But like the solipsistic women whose mindset they share to a certain degree, the Gamma's motto might as well be "enough about you, let's talk about me."

Anyhow, buying the same thing is totally irrelevant. The Gamma has it backwards. He's always looking at "what he does" as being the problem rather than "what he is". In my nightclub days, I always ordered the same drink. But I am a high-rank Sigma, so instead of "telling me to grow up", people would see me coming and put the drink in my hand. Once a guy even handed me my notoriously bright blue drink when I was downtown on a date, in my car, stopped at a traffic light. The look on my date's face was hilarious. It's not what you do, it's who you are and how you do it.

As you'd expect, Jay's response was lame and only made it worse. Gamma's always "try to laugh it off" and make a joke of it. "Ha ha, the joke is on you, because blah blah blah" is the standard Gamma reaction. That doesn't work. Everyone sees through it because it's not a joke, it's a challenge. My response to a woman questioning what I wanted to eat (what the fuck, I don't think that has ever happened in my life) would probably be nothing more than a look of contempt, possibly punctuated by a snort. It's not her business and I don't care what she thinks about what I eat.

Good lord, I can almost hear the rambling attempt to laugh away, and explain, and justify, and preen, and posture now. Anyhow, Jay did return his attention to the actual post long enough to try to make it about himself:

Given the idea of transition from gamma to delta what do people think about the following -

You give me ideas of things that I should do, I go out and do them. Then report back with what happened, how it seemed to me, and see what you all think? Perhaps be worth me giving a basic outline of how I live etc so you know a bit about me beforehand rather than just have the general idea of gamma/delta. Not sure if there is omega tendencies in me, seems like it. Weirdo factor. Social wonkiness. Literally no idea who I am. Im probably much better than I think at times. Im liked anyway lol!

I'll have a think about the Delta thing about responsibility. My inital take on that is feeling like a bit of a servant to others, I'm not sure whether its just "what" I would be doing rather than "that" Im doing it. With genuine effort plus time its obvious to me I'd improve but I think the problem is facing these sorts of things opens up old psychogical wounds that Ive sort of buried by avoiding everything that I can get away with. They will definitely float back up again from the brain pool. Emotional confusion in the moment results in me wanting to run away.

Im playing pool more now and have goals with that, also started mountain biking with father. I can see me going for long rides on my own. The women thing is a huge problem Ive got hang ups about my hang ups. Maybe good to do some stuff with that. Theres little better than a woman being into you.

Ive thought about this before about using a blog like this for the above purpose, not sure if its imposing a bit though. Some level of attention seeking in it definitely. I need the truth of who I am and whats happening its clear but Im not gonna let anybody say it to me, and they know it so don't go there. Triggered!! Im an SJW, at least in the sense of the emotional underpinnings of it all, the need for ideology, excuse etc etc. Ranting on about nonsense. On my own usually, what would the neighbours think!

Ye cats. So, he wants to write about himself BEFORE he even considers doing something that he isn't even convinced is worth doing yet and in the process proceeds to explain why he shouldn't bother doing it anyway. Still wonder why Gammas never get anywhere?

Jay, in answer to your question, the idea is a very bad one. You do not need more attention, quite to the contrary, you need to get over yourself, stop paying so much attention to people paying attention to you, stop thinking about yourself, stop thinking about people's potential reactions to things you might do, and simply DO what should be done. Introspection is not your friend. There are men who could do with more introspection and self-awareness, but you are not one of them. You have a surfeit of both.

No man, in the entire history of Man, has ever accomplished anything of note while gazing at his navel.

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