Delta Perspective: Making a Change

Making a change in dating takes three ingredients:

• Information
• Timing
• Catalyst

I don’t think it’s possible to make a significant change in relationships and dating without all three of these things coming together at once. This arguably holds true for many other types of change as well.

Looking back at my life there were times years ago both women and men told me the right information, but the timing was wrong. How many times has good advice fallen on deaf ears in your life? This isn’t just about the Red Pill, but life in general. Once a man has the information it does no good if the timing for change is wrong. There may be legitimate reasons why a sudden perspective change on something significant like women and relationships just can’t happen right then. The guy could be finishing up a degree, moving, looking for work, etc., all which take priority. The man could also be enjoying the easy road of porn, games, and hanging out too much. He has the info because he’s read all about the Red Pill, there’s nothing significant stopping him from acting, but there’s no change.

The most important ingredient in our change soup is a catalyst which facilitates the change. It could be a negative one like a bad breakup, sickness, being put on the friends list one more time, or just intolerable loneliness. Positive reasons for change happen too, like love, the birth of a child, and a dedication to better mental and physical health. There has to be a concrete driver of the change or no action will take place.

If you are wondering why you can’t change then seek out of these three things what’s missing and try to find it. If you have a buddy who’s stuck be a friend by being patient and the helping where you can, but ultimately it’s his life and decision to change. So don’t despair if change doesn’t happen quickly or easily, but instead store up good information, seek enough stability in your life to make a change, and look for motivation. Most of all don’t give up.

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